Become an Upstander: Take a Stand Against Bullying
What It Means to Be an Upstander
An Upstander
Stands up or speaks up when someone is being wronged.
Yells, “Stop,” or lets the aggressor know their actions are not okay.
Let the person being bullied know they are not alone.
Gets help by informing a teacher, counselor, or authority figure.
Encourages others around them to be Upstanders too.
A Bystander
Does not help when they see something wrong.
Sometimes laughs along, giving passive support to bullying behavior.
Sometimes tries to ignore what is happening.
Expects someone else to do something.
Does not know what to say or do, so does nothing.
Why Does Taking a Stand
Matter to Your Brain?
Empathy Activates the Brain’s Social Regions
In a study published in the Journal of Child Development, researchers found that individuals with higher levels of empathy are more likely to intervene in bullying situations. Brain imaging showed that empathy activates regions like the medial prefrontal cortex (mPFC) and anterior cingulate cortex—key areas that help us understand and respond to the emotions of others. By fostering empathy, you are training your brain to be more socially aware and compassionate.
Taking Action Reduces Emotional Distress
The same study revealed that Upstanders who took positive action experienced lower levels of emotional distress than those who stayed passive. Intervening activates the brain’s reward centers, such as the ventromedial prefrontal cortex (vmPFC), which is associated with feelings of satisfaction and self-efficacy. Additionally, taking action triggers the release of oxytocin, a hormone that enhances feelings of connection and trust.
Developing Social-Emotional Skills Enhances Emotional Regulation
The study emphasized the importance of developing social-emotional skills, such as empathy and effective communication. Students who had been taught these skills showed increased activity in the amygdala, allowing them to better regulate their emotional responses in high-stress situations like bullying incidents.
The Actions of an Upstander
from a Bystander:
Supporting Victims
Reaching out to offer comfort and support to someone who is being bullied, letting them know they are not alone. Research shows that social support can significantly reduce feelings of isolation and anxiety in those targeted.
Speaking Up
Calmly but firmly telling the bully to stop, or redirecting the situation to diffuse the tension. Standing up not only helps the victim but also signals to the bully that their behavior is unacceptable, disrupting the cycle of bullying.
Seeking Help
Informing a teacher, counselor, or authority figure who can take appropriate action. Seeking help from others builds a network of accountability and ensures that the situation is addressed effectively.
Encouraging Others
Motivating friends or peers to also take a stand and work together to foster an inclusive environment. Positive group action creates a culture of empathy and respect.
Why Being an Upstander is Important
Stops the Cycle of Bullying
Bullying thrives in silence. When an Upstander intervenes, it disrupts the cycle of bullying and sends a clear message that such behavior is unacceptable. Research shows that bullying stops within 10 seconds, 57% of the time when someone intervenes. Your actions can make a powerful difference.
Supports Those Who Are Targeted
Victims of bullying often feel isolated, scared, and powerless. Upstanders provide much-needed support and solidarity, helping to alleviate the emotional impact of bullying. Knowing that someone cares and is willing to help can be a turning point for someone in distress.
Fosters a Culture of Empathy and Respect
By taking a stand against bullying, Upstanders set a positive example for others. They inspire their peers to treat one another with compassion, inclusivity, and respect, creating a ripple effect that can transform entire communities.
Empowers Individuals to Take Action
Becoming an Upstander gives you the confidence and courage to act, reinforcing the idea that everyone’s voice matters. This empowerment extends beyond just bullying situations, encouraging people to speak up against all forms of injustice.
